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Fuck.

Posted by InsertFunnyUserName - March 17th, 2009


So, we have this research project in school and we have to write a huge long paper on a topic with interviews and everything. The topic can be anything. This whole research paper is something we're going to be working on in my English class for 12 weeks, so it needs to be something that I'm really interested in.

As long as, however, our parents sign off on it.

So the topic I settled on was BDSM acceptance; the way our society reacts to the BDSM community and the way the BDSM community reacts to the rest of society.

Now, upon telling them about my plans for this project, they did what I half expected them to do, which was not approving. They said they would "discuss" it.

Now, I'm not complaining about this. I understand their concerns, this is context.

We had an argument about it at dinner, how it might not be appropriate for me to look into, and so on. Not surprising and understandable. I'm still pushing for it, but that's beside the point.

During this conversation, I discovered how disapproving my parents actually were about BDSM in and of itself. My mom said, and I quote, "I watched this documentary and in one part, there was a scene that was depicting male bondage and I almost threw up."

ffffffuck

I'm now thinking that bringing up this research topic was a pretty good idea because now I have some foreshadowing to how they're going to react when they actually do find out that I'm into BDSM.

I pretty much knew this was going to be the case, but I was hoping that it wouldn't be. That hope is dead now.

Three cheers for being a disappointment.

Ugh.


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You.

Me.

it sounds like an interesting topic, but without access to a research library or something, it can wind up being a bit daunting and uninformative. Wait till college to research it, the resources are so vast that you'll be able to find real primary source material to learn from.

Oh, yeah, I understand why the topic may not be the best of ideas. I'll still want to do it and I'm going to try to convince them, but eh, that's not as important. Plus, I can always go to any of the six collages in the area that are pretty progressive for information.

I'm more concerned, though, about the way they reacted to the subject, being that's it's going to come up again. I was hoping they wouldn't have a strong reaction against it for that reason.

Bugger. I hate it when people get mis-conceptions from the media about things. Though, admittedly, I've never gotten the bondage thing myself. :P

The only thing worse than ignorance is self inflicted ignorance.

And yeah, it's one of those things that's hard to truly be able to understand completely if you've never actually experienced what it's like to be into something like that. Though, they still should have some empathy and actually understand what they're bashing before they bash it.

Huh. I've actually never heard much about BDSM. The only thing I know is that it stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and masonochism. I really don't see why people are so controversial over this. Let people do what they want for crying out loud!

So anyway, good luck with teh report.

My point exactly.

She's disgusted by it and yet she's never actually taken the time to figure out what exactly it is. If she had a good conversation with someone who's actually involved in bdsm and actually knows what they're talking about, ie not a 15 year old boy, I think she'd have a bit of a different opinion coming out of it.

Sounds like she's overreacting a bit.

Anyways, I'm kind of into that shit to, just a tidbit of information.

What I do know is that they don't approve of bdsm in and of itself.

I also don't think that they'd react extremely harshly if I told them. What I'm more concerned about is the fact that in future, they may be disgusted with the lifestyle that I take on and I don't want that to be the case.

That is rather unfortunate.
I hate it when parents have to sign off on projects.

I mean, really, just because there's always going to be one chucklehead that'll go "HURDURRR, IMMA DO A PAPER ON POT/SEX/BOOZ, HAHA, I FUNNAY" shouldn't mean that it spoils it for the rest of us.

If I was still in psychology, I would totally do a paper on fetishes.
It actually is a very fascinating subject, as to what may cause it, when it starts becoming a problem, how society reacts...

You seemed to have a slightly unreasonable hope, not to be offensive, and this seems to be your cynical side finding the confirmation it needed.

Don't let it get you down. Parents will not approve of all you do, unfortunately.
Is there anything else you're interested in, other than BDSM?

I'm going to (hopefully, if I can persuade them) focus the project mostly on the stigma around bdsm and how that stigma has changed over the years.

bdsm is the topic I want to do the most, but if I can't do that, I'll probably do criminal psychology or psychology of religion.

Question is: Why do they need to know?

I'm sure as hell not going to tell them.

But I just have this strong feeling that they're going to find out eventually some way or another. Maybe it won't be now, maybe it won't be until I'm out of highschool, and hell, maybe it won't be until I'm 30, but I just know it's going to happen somehow.

Unfortunately for me, it's not exactly one of the most inconspicuous fetishes/life styles. :I

Wanna discuss some BDSM with me in my bedroom?

I already have the whip and shackles... =3

Hell yeah. :D

I love, uh... discussion. Heh, yeah, that's it :3

Why would your parents find out about you being into it anyway?

Well, if they ever looked at my writing folder
...or my images folder
...or my browsing history
...or my bookmarks
...or my msn logs
...or my google history
...or that other good history at the top of firefox's menus that never goes away
...or that dropdown list that conveniently comes up when you type in a web address

Or if they found out that I use this account to go on ng and look through my blog posts or my post history.

Or if they found my dA account and saw what was on there.

Or if they looked through my sketchbook(s)

Or if they make the connection between the cutting I did in 07 and this project.

Or if, later on when I'm older, they see the marks.